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The teaching in Harris’ book is much like what I encountered in white and black churches.

I have to listen so hard to myself to actually know what I like, what I don’t, and what I desire, because the idea of pleasure is a foreign idea.

The US church was afraid of sex and sin, and so we became afraid too. Even in the black churches that I attended, this book was widely read.

In hindsight, it’s a bit scary that a white evangelical had that much sway over people whose bodies are already policed by white ideas.

I also read some of In the spring of 2013, I started a hashtag #noshamemov (short for No Shame Movement) so that people would have a platform for sharing their stories of growing up in purity culture. In the 3 years I’ve been doing this, lots of folks who shared their stories point to IKDG as either central or playing a significant role in how purity culture was enforced.

It came up so often I finally decided to check it out from the library.

The wider teaching also undermined a relationship I had toward the end of college.

The content of the film is enlightening, and the character of Joshua Harris is inspirational. But beside my non-existent teen love life, the book had a larger impact that as an adult, I’m only now coming to grips with—damaging expectations of myself, men, and sexuality—beliefs that have cost me love, friendship, and given me a life of shame.(IKDG) about four years later near the end of middle school.And that’s so much bigger than sex; there’s a critical portion of a healthy life that I have to strain to reach that was damaged in the name of God.I actually didn’t read the book until a couple years ago.

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