Dating man different religion
Summer says that she and her boyfriend have also discussed the potential tension that could arise between fulfilling traditional parental roles and pursuing their career goals.
Some students argue that the problems with interfaith dating are essentially the result of cultural differences. Mehta ’09 says he would prefer to date a fellow Hindu, but says that shared culture, more than shared faith, is what’s important to him.
“[An interfaith relationship] might create more dialogue between you and God,” Skoda says.
She says that such a relationship would inspire questions such as “How is it that I see this and my boyfriend or girlfriend can’t or doesn’t want to see it at all?
She says that when she ran for the position of Hillel President last year, some notable people in the community expressed concern over her involvement in an interfaith relationship.“It was not a huge issue,” she said, “but it was something that I had to justify.”Many Harvard Jewish students say that both dating and marrying within the faith are important to them.“I think that dating within the faith..a strong value that many Jews have.
To have the president or the moral leader of the community not acting in line with that value is a questionable thing,” Summer said. GOD Some students say that having a partner of a different faith or with a different level of commitment to the faith may interfere with their own relationship with God. Gillis ’08, a Protestant from an Evangelical background, says the importance of shared religious beliefs is emphasized in The New Testament.
He adds that many Indian families would not support interfaith relationships, and that this attitude is characteristic of many other cultural traditions as well.“A lot of parents feel that you’re going to dilute your culture if you date someone of a different culture,” he says.
Skoda says the phrase negatively connotes one person setting out in a relationship in order to convert the other person, and she says she thinks that this happens infrequently, if at all.
That can be an irreconcilable problem at times,” she said after a forum on interfaith dating last month.
Though these concerns may seem distant now, Summer says that if she were to marry her current boyfriend, they would have to make a decision about how to raise their children.“The options are to raise our children as Jews, as Catholics or as atheists.
Catholic Students Association Chaplain Faye Darnall agrees that children brought up with two conflicting religious traditions may not feel truly connected to either of them.
But Darnall says that choosing the faith of one parent can pose its own difficulties.“It’s a loss to not raise your children in your own tradition, if you choose to raise them in your partner’s tradition ...